OPEN OFFICE HOURS: NOW!

Just a reminder that I’m holding open office hours today (and Friday, July 22nd) from 8:00 to 11:00 am. I’m here now if you’d like to swing by.

Also remember that I can schedule a meeting with you at another time (if office hours aren’t convenient for you or you are remote and need a phone consult). Let me know if you’d like to schedule one with me.

You can find me in Campbell Hall, Room 127. I sent an email out with a map, but in case you forgot, you enter through the door to 129. There IS construction blocking the one hallway next to my door, so you need to enter from the SOUTH side of Campbell Hall.

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Antique Brass Doorstop outside my office door in Campbell Hall on OSU Campus (Photo by Anita Parker, April 2014)

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We all can’t stay here forever

no one is perfect pencils have erasersI’m on campus for a meeting today.

Meetings aren’t generally my favorite thing but this one? Relatively painlessūüôā

It’s a nice change from grading -to be simply talking with a colleague ¬†– and so here I am. Most of the work from Spring 2016 is behind us, and a new Carmen is on its way. Summer (and summer classes) are on the horizon. Change is hard but it is good.

Did you catch that?

Change. Is. Good.

Speaking of change… OSU is very very quiet today. This is what happens when students are either GONE¬†for good, or have headed off for summer plans…¬†or are curled up in a ball nursing their wounds after grade-posting. Here’s hoping it’s one of the first two for all of my students. What a great semester – and what fantastic students. Yes… fantastic for the most part. I said it.

We¬†hear a lot about ¬†millennials and it’s often negative. I’ve got news for the world: My students aren’t better OR worse than the generation that came before them. Some of them have their head on straight and are focused on their work. Some of them could not care less about school work. Some are just trying to figure out who they are in the world. That’s okay. It’s what young adults are doing today. It’s the same thing their parents and grandparents did before them.

I want to thank my students for an awesome semester. Some of you gave me a headache but nearly all of you made me smile or laugh at least once. If you screwed up this semester? Time for a change. Don’t let that define you. If you screw up in the future? Same advice. We are all capable of monumental failures¬†and epic achievements. I’ve made my fair share of both. I suspect I’ll do the same in the futureūüėČ

I always ask students to keep in touch if they’ve graduated. Let me know where you land… where life takes you. If you start a business or a family (or both), I’d love to hear about it. If you are at OSU still (or for a visit), let’s meet up for coffee.

anita

 

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I hope you get the chance…

imagesSo that happened. Yesterday. There was more violence and much closer than many of us would care to feel it. Scary? Yes. Receiving those “shelter in place” messages can send some of us to a dark place.

Fear.

Fear isn’t terribly useful past its initial “flight or fight” impulse. It’s healthy to fear if it spurs us to action and saves us further damage. Wallowing in it? Avoiding it? Neither are useful. Ah, but the fear ¬†can also put us into a fairly primitive place where our minds realize how¬†much of our day-to-day life is just noise.¬† In those moments we receive a gift of sorts: We realize what¬†is and¬†is not truly important to us. That’s useful too.

Fear.

Do your best to face it.

Feel it.

Appreciate the initial message your body and mind communicate to you… they are trying to keep you safe.

My best advice is to FEEL it but not FEED it.

Easier said than done, I know. Take care of yourself Рask for help if you need it Рand refocus your energies on the things you CAN control: Studying, for instance (wink).

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GOT STRESS? NEED OFFICE HOURS?

The semester is winding down, and for many of you that means:

Stress

Anxiety

All the Feels

If you need to see me, I’m holding OPEN OFFICE HOURS today and Thursday.

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TUESDAY, APRIL 26, 2016  7:30 am Р1:30 pm
(yup, I’m already here!)

and

THURSDAY, APRIL 28, 2016 7:30 am Р1:30 pm

If you need to see me at another time, you will need to schedule private office hours. These are possible, but limited.

Whether you visit during drop-in hours or by-appointment, please come prepared with specific questions or concerns. Help me help you.

Don’t want to see me but anxious about grades? Please be patient as I chip away at this mountain of papers! You will be notified when all grades are in Carmen and ready for the Registrar’s office. If you have anything lower than an “A” I will give you an opportunity to verify your grades before the push to the main system.

alt_7.13.12.jpgNow – On a very serious note: If your stress levels have exceeded your coping strategies, please seek some help. There are lots of resources in the community. There are folks on campus that can talk with you as well. They’ll help you develop strategies to cope with finals as well as other issues. ¬†The Younkin Success Center offers¬†excellent Wellness Services that cover everything from tutoring/studying assistance to counseling. Heck, if ¬†you are a graduating Senior, you can even go get help with your resume or career search!

If you need help… make sure to ask!

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Vagina Monologues

If ¬†you’ve ever wanted to see them (or to see them again… since they are so different each time), check out the local Vagina Monologues this Friday or Sunday! You’ll probably recognize some faces (Tara for one!). Sadly, not mine. Nope… I can’t make itūüė¶

There is a cost (ten dollars at the door) or you can pre-purchase tickets online to be sure you get a spot. As I type this, there are still some TABLES available too in case you want to take a group and get comfortable!

https://www.facebook.com/events/1583991648557392/

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This is Public Health

Today, at our last class meeting of the semester (for HDFS 2367 Mon/Wed) a student shared a bumper sticker with me. Here it is!

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She said it seemed like a very good fit with the class we’ve shared and I agree. That’s why I am sharing the information with you now after checking out the website first, of course. I love it when students make connections with course material and share information (like this) with me.

THIS IS PUBLIC HEALTH

(from their website):

About

The This is Public Health (TIPH) campaign was created by the Association of Schools and Programs of Public Health (ASPPH) to brand public health and raise awareness of how public health affects individuals, families, communities, and populations. The simple statement ‚Äď This is Public Health – has proven to be a powerful tool in raising awareness about and support for public health efforts. Join this global effort to promote public health awareness.

Social

This is Public Health promotes public health awareness through social media, which allows users to interact with the campaign via Facebook or Instagram. Take photos of public health efforts, issues, or events and share your photos on social media by using #thisispublichealth. Stay up to date with photo contests, monthly challenges, and campaign activities by following us on social media.

Resources

Interested in getting involved? The resource page is where you’ll find materials to help you build your campaign. Traditionally, the campaign utilizes stickers with the slogan This is Public Health placed in strategic locations around communities to build awareness of the many ways in which public health impacts our well being. Other resources include campaign downloads, messaging, and videos.

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Because many of us have been socialized to say “I’m sorry” far too much

thank you versus i am sorry

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Speakers: POWER EXCHANGE with Brenda&arcane and Kevin&katie (March 29, 2016 @ 11:10 am)

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One Form of Power Exchange from the photography of Robert Mapplethorpe (Brian and Lyle 1979)

Two Power Exchange couples will visit my HDFS 5440 classroom on The Ohio State University Main Campus (Townshend Hall, Room 247) Today (March 29nd) from from 11:10 am  to 12:30 pm. to discuss the world of consensual power exchange and stereotypes surrounding it.

These couples use¬†the “Master” and “slave” titles¬†and capitalization conventions in their bios below will reflect that..

If some terminology is unfamiliar, please visit the NCSF (National Coalition for Sexual Freedom) for the Glossary of BDSM they provide.

NOTE: This presentation is about consensual relationships and should not be confused with domestic violence or sexual abuse. If you need -or someone you know needs- help due to a non-consensual relationship, please contact local authorities or a reputable organization such as the Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN) at  1-(800) 656.HOPE

After a brief introduction, Ms. Brenda  (and her slave, arcane) will join with Kevin (and his slave, katie) to share their stories and may demonstrate some basics of their lifestyle dynamic. No sex acts will take place during this class, of course, but students do have the option of sitting-out the class if they believe it will be triggering. There will be an informative Question&Answer period for students throughout and following the discussion.

If you wish to bring a friend, make certain to tell them that chairs are not part of the bargain. There are just enough chairs for students enrolled in the class. All others should be prepared to grab a comfortable (?) spot on the floor.

 

If you wish to contact these speakers  please contact Anita Parker. I would be happy to forward your information to them.


 Ms. Brenda and arcane

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Ms. Brenda and arcane are a 24/7 power exchange couple.

She was born and raised in Florida, where she was a professional wrestler, and worked in retail management.  She moved to Ohio in 1996, with her late husband, where they helped start a local munch and educational group.

arcane is a retired massage therapist.  He relocated from Texas to Ohio, in 1997 to marry his late Mistress. She encouraged him to make floggers as a career, which keeps him busy vending and presenting at events all across the country.

They all met through the munch group and both couples became good friends.  After losing their spouses, Ms. Brenda and arcane began dating and were married, complete with collaring ceremony in Feb 2013.

They earned the title of Great Lakes Master/ slave,  they take pride in carrying the titles as education and understanding of the Master/slave dynamic is very important to them.

Kevin and katie

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Photo taken at MudHero (http://www.mudhero.com)

Kevin and katie are married, and have enjoyed a M/s relationship for 12 years. They have maintained a loving 24/7 TPE (Total Power Exchange) relationship while surviving raising teenagers, full time employment, a total-loss house fire, correcting huge debt, home renovations, and Alberta winters. Their presentations are a rollicking mix of humor and honesty ‚Äď like any good scene, you might not be sure whether it feels good, or you should cry.

Kevin has clinical experience watching what makes couples succeed and what causes them to fail. Through moderating Power Exchange discussion groups together, they have heard the real struggles faced by real couples. Their mission is to help people create, maintain and optimize their relationships. They hope to encourage individuals and relationships to grow through proper focus on goals and priorities.

Actual workshop attendees say: “Your workshops were a breath of fresh air and the first meaningful TPE workshops to offer a practical strategic framework as well as some tactical behaviours to underpin it. They were also entertaining without being content-free.” and ‚ÄúTheir presentations are so good, I skipped Bow Chicka Wow Wow for one.‚ÄĚ

Kevin and katie present at Leather, Power Exchange, and Kink events in both the US and Canada.

Student Readings:

Related (Suggested) Readings

(For deeper understanding of Power Exchange Dynamics from the perspective of Masters and slaves)

Living M/s: A Book for Masters, slaves, and Their Relationships by Dan and dawn Williams

Dear Raven and Joshua: Questions and Answers about Master/Slave Relationships by Raven Kaldera and Joshua Tenpenny


 

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Speakers: BONDAGE with BondageNexus and linworth (March 22, 2016)

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“White Gauze” by Robert Mapplethorpe (1984)

BondageNexus and linworth will visit my HDFS 5440 classroom on The Ohio State University Main Campus (Townshend Hall, Room 247) Today (March 22nd) from from 11:10 am  to 12:30 pm. to discuss Bondage and stereotypes surrounding it.

After a brief introduction, Bondage Nexus and Linworth will demonstrate some basic ties and discuss suspension. No sex acts will take place during this class, of course, but students do have the option of sitting out the class if they believe it will be triggering. There will be an informative Question&Answer period for students throughout and following the demonstration.

If you wish to bring a friend, make certain to tell them that chairs are not part of the bargain. There are just enough chairs for students enrolled in the class. All others should be prepared to grab a comfortable (?) spot on the floor.


Bondage Nexus

BondageNexus has enjoyed incorporating rope bondage into his sex life since puberty. In the last ten years he has done bondage in the public kink scene mostly as an outreach to folks who are new to kink in hopes that they can be more comfortable in their love of bondage. If you’ve been to Trauma here in Columbus, you may have already caught one of his performances.

Information about CORG (The Central Ohio Rope Group) is available online.

Examples of a past performance at TRAUMA can be found online as well.


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linworth has been actively exploring the kink world since 2007, and while having all sorts of “deviant” proclivities, has mainly settled into her two favorites of power exchange and rope bondage. While generally the shy, submissive type, she has a passion for education and discussion surrounding consent culture, rope bottoming, and the safe practice of all things kinky.


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This panel is offered to students along with academic readings on the topic (provided by their professor on Carmen) and classroom discussion. ¬†Special attention will be given to an excerpt from Steve Lenius’ Life, Leather, and the Pursuit of Happiness¬†(Chapter 39, Bondage: the difference between black and gray)


Pink’s “Try” has been¬†chosen for this class meeting’s music:


 

Image: White Gauze 1984 РRobert Mapplethorpe

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Speakers: BDSM 101 with Barak & Sheba (March 10, 2016)

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Barak and Sheba (Of Adventures in Sexuality) will visit my HDFS 5440 classroom on The Ohio State University Main Campus (Townshend Hall, Room 247) Today (March 10th) from from 11:10 am  to 12:30 pm. to discuss BDSM 101 and stereotypes surrounding it.

After a brief introduction by the panel, there will be an informative Question&Answer period for students.

If you wish to bring a friend, make certain to tell them that chairs are not part of the bargain. There are just enough chairs for students enrolled in the class. All others should be prepared to grab a comfortable (?) spot on the floor.

This panel is offered to students along with academic readings on the topic (provided by their professor on Carmen) and classroom discussion.  Special attention will be given to the Hebert & Weaver article: Perks, problems, and the people who play: A qualitative exploration of dominant and submissive BDSM roles ( http://www.utpjournals.press/doi/abs/10.3138/cjhs.2467 ) 

Barak & Sheba are pansexual, polyamorous, married partners who reside in Columbus, Ohio; with some gigantic cats. They are Contributing Authors for Sexis Online Magazine and have written numerous short stories and essays on Polyamory, Kink, and Sacred Sexuality. Traveling around the country, they present classes for Kink, Leather, and Vanilla audiences. On the first Monday of each month, you can hear them talking about all forms of creative sexual expression on BS’ing with Barak & Sheba hosted by the Erotic Awakenings Podcast network. Together they are the founding members and owners of Adventures in Sexuality(AIS), a fun, frolicking, PanPolyBSDM/Kink group in Central Ohio. Through AIS they are Coalition members of the NCSF (National Coalition for Sexual Freedom) are active supporters of The Sexual Assault Response Network of Central Ohio (SARNCO) and the Buckeye Region Anti-Violence Organization (BRAVO). They currently promote Pansexual BDSM Educational Events in Central Ohio.

In their ‚ÄúIntro to Kink‚ÄĚ presentation, they introduce the audience to the Who, What, Why, Where and How of Sensation, Roleplay, Fetish, and Bondage. You are hearing about Bondage, BDSM, Kinky Sex, and many of the taboo buzzwords thrown all over, since 50 shades came out. But what does it all mean? How do people ‚Äúspice‚ÄĚ up their relationship without going overboard? In this informational class, they discuss the general avenues that make up Kink, Alt Sex, or Creative sexuality. They offer some general guidelines, and provide a PG-13 rated ‚Äúshow and tell‚ÄĚ that illustrates some key points.


 

Additional Links/Resources:

The Space V7m

The Columbus Space for Alternative Self Expression

Huffington Post Online article featuring Barak and Sheba:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/pamela-madsen/kinky-sex-ohio_b_9195488.html

 

 

 



 

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