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Speakers: “Power Exchange” with Kevin&katie and Ms. Brenda&arcane (December 8, 2015)

On December 8, 2015, my HDFS 5440 class will be joined by a panel comprised of individuals living consensual power exchange relationships.

The class is held on The Ohio State University Main Campus (Schoenbaum Hall, Room 200) from 11:10 am to 12:30 pm.

If you are in another instructor’s 5440 or you’ve taken it with me previously? YES, you may come. It may be standing room only, however, so be prepared to grab a piece of carpet and plant yourself there! If you are bringing friends as guests, they must understand this AND be at least 18 years of age and aware of the topic. Guests should not ask questions of the speakers until all enrolled students have an opportunity to do so.

The couples will speak about their relationships (both use the “Master” and “slave” titles and capitalization conventions in their bios below will reflect that).

During their visit, students will learn about a variety of ways in which people live power exchange relationships and have an opportunity to answer questions and receive candid responses.

If some power exchange terminology is unfamiliar, please visit the NCSF (National Coalition for Sexual Freedom) for the Glossary of BDSM they provide.

NOTE: This presentation was about consensual relationships and should not be confused with domestic violence or sexual abuse. If you need -or someone you know needs- help due to a non-consensual relationship, please contact local authorities or a reputable organization such as the Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN) at  1-(800) 656.HOPE

If you wish to contact these speakers  please contact Anita Parker. I would be happy to forward your information to them.

 Kevin and katie

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Kevin and katie are married, and have enjoyed a M/s relationship, for 13 years. They have maintained a loving 24/7 TPE relationship while surviving raising teenagers, full time employment, a total-loss house fire, correcting huge debt, home renovations, and Canadian winters. They are the recent winners of the 2016 Great Lakes Power Exchange title, where they competed to be representatives and educators regarding Power Exchange relationships in a 9 state region.

Kevin is a retired psychologist, so he has clinical experience watching what makes relationships succeed or fail. Through moderating Power Exchange discussion groups, Kevin and katie have both heard the real struggles faced by real couples. Their mission is to help people create, maintain and optimize their relationships. They hope to encourage individuals and relationships to grow through proper focus on goals and priorities.


Ms. Brenda and arcane


Ms. Brenda and arcane are a 24/7 power exchange couple.

She was born and raised in Florida, where she was a professional wrestler, and worked in retail management.  She moved to Ohio in 1996, with her late husband, where they helped start a local munch and educational group.

arcane is a retired massage therapist.  He relocated from Texas to Ohio, in 1997 to marry his late Mistress. She encouraged him to make floggers as a career, which keeps him busy vending and presenting at events all across the country.

They all met through the munch group and both couples became good friends.  After losing their spouses, Ms. Brenda and arcane began dating and were married, complete with collaring ceremony in Feb 2013.

They earned the Leather title of  Great Lakes Master/ slave and have recently created an organization that seeks to meet the needs of those in “the community” who are facing hardships (GOAL).


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Speakers: Bondage Nexus and linworth (December 3, 2015 @ 11:10 am)


Photo by  Jan Lehner*

BondageNexus and linworth will be visiting my HDFS 5440 classroom on The Ohio State University Main Campus (Schoenbaum Hall, Room 200) on December  3, 2015 from 11:10 am to 12:30 pm.

Both are considered “veterans” in the local scene (and beyond) with decades of experience between them. They will demonstrate some basics, discuss consent and negotiations, and answer students’ candid questions about their love of rope and how they explore this “kink” safely in their everyday lives.

If you are in another instructor’s 5440 or you’ve taken it with me previously? YES, you may come. It may be standing room only, however, so be prepared to grab a piece of carpet and plant yourself there! If you are bringing friends as guests, they must understand this AND be at least 18 years of age and aware of the topic. Guests should not ask questions of the speakers until all enrolled students have an opportunity to do so.

Bondage Nexus

BondageNexus has enjoyed incorporating rope bondage into his sex life since puberty. In the last ten years he has done bondage in the public kink scene mostly as an outreach to folks who are new to kink in hopes that they can be more comfortable in their love of bondage. If you’ve been to Trauma here in Columbus, you may have already caught one of his performances.


linworth has been actively exploring the kink world since 2007, and while having all sorts of “deviant” proclivities, has mainly settled into her two favorites of power exchange and rope bondage. While generally the shy, submissive type, she has a passion for education and discussion surrounding consent culture, rope bottoming, and the safe practice of all things kinky.


In addition to normal class readings, students were asked to read an excerpt from Steve Lenius’ Life, Leather, and the Pursuit of Happiness (Chapter 39, Bondage: the difference between black and gray)


Pink’s “Try” has been chosen for this class meeting’s music:


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the identity projectFor all students (past and present) as well as folks who “happen by” the blog…
I’d like to take a moment to tell you about the IDENTITY PROJECT on display at OSU this month.  Better, yet, I’ll let Angie Wellman tell you about that AND MORE (below).

Students in my HDFS 5440 course this semester may use this as an extra credit opportunity but must visit the exhibit and plan on doing so in a thoughtful and UNrushed manner.

Welcome to cooler air, beautiful leaves, and time to gather with family and friends! As we begin October, and our celebration of LGBTQ History Month, the Ohio State campus community is coming together for a myriad of programs and events framed around the theme of “Telling Our Stories.”
For lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people (and those whose sexual or gender identity falls somewhere else along the spectrum), openness and authenticity has been an especially powerful tool in telling our stories — both to others in the LGBTQ community and to allied audiences.
The programs and events planned for LGBTQ History Month, as well as the upcoming Transgender Celebration Week in November, are framed to move us, to make us think, to make us remember, to make us reconsider our assumptions, to change our minds, to introduce us to people and places and communities we want to learn more about.
Probably the most visual component of this is the “Identity Project” display in the Great Hall of the Ohio Union.  It is a photography exhibit wherein those who were photographed were empowered to choose the words that they wanted to represent them. The photographer, Sarah Deragon, describes it in this way:
“The Identity Project resonates with people because the photo project pushes up against the preconceived notions of what it is to be LGBTQ in today’s society. Not only are the portraits striking, the participants in the project are playing with language, making up entirely new terms (transgenderqueer or inbetweener) and showing pride in their complex and ever changing identities.”
For more insight to the thoughts of those photographed, check out this link to their testimonials.
Already, the art installation has sparked discussion.
“What does this have to do with LGBT History Month?” Why didn’t we display pictures of cute couples and LGBT parents?” “Aren’t some of these labels sexualized? Doesn’t this reinforce the slurs that people use against us?”
My answer is as simple as it is complicated. So often we talk about how to get beyond the limiting, even destructive, identities we create for ourselves, or have been imposed on us in our lives. Historically, folks in the LGBTQ community have been labeled, and those labels have resulted in familial, political, economic, and social oppression.
Why this photo exhibit? What power in self-identifying! What freedom in sharing our identities with the words that we, alone, choose! What does it mean for us as a community to make visible, to give voice, to those segments of our community who are so often erased from our collective narrative when their stories, identities or lives are not “mainstream” or “assimilated” to society’s accepted norms?  What does it mean to bring visibility to our community’s most invisible, marginalized members?
To reflect on the words that folks have chosen and feel empowered by…and then reflect on what those words illicit in us.

This year, many in the LGBTQ and allied community celebrated marriage equality. In fact, we are fortunate to be hosting the lead plaintiff in the Supreme Court case, Jim Obergefell, as our National Coming Out Day Keynote. This has, indeed, been an exceptionally historic year.
And as we celebrate, we cannot stop working. I said it in June, and am saying it again now. This struggle is about more than marriage equality. This work that we do together to create change is about all of us.  Our community includes a vibrant, wide spectrum of people, who have very different lived experiences and ways of moving through the world. AND-each and every person is valuable, and deserves to be able to live open, fulfilling, authentic lives.
The National Celebration of LGBT History Month provides an opportunity for us to raise awareness, to build community, and to celebrate the contributions of extraordinary LGBTQ people.
At OSU, the photo exhibit, the programs, and the discussions that are offered as a part of this celebration of community create space for each of us to reflect on our movement: Our past, our present, and our future.  Through all of these shared mediums, we create space to ensure that each part of our campus community is valued, respected and included.
Important questions and dialogues this history month:
What are you doing to create space? What are you doing to bring visibility to marginalized identities? What are you doing to create change?
Equally as important: what are you doing to live authentically, happily, and whole in all of your many identities?
Stop by the MCC, I would welcome the opportunity to chat with you about all of these things!
In Community & Solidarity,

Angie Wellman
Student Life Multicultural Center

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