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I hope you get the chance…

imagesSo that happened. Yesterday. There was more violence and much closer than many of us would care to feel it. Scary? Yes. Receiving those “shelter in place” messages can send some of us to a dark place.


Fear isn’t terribly useful past its initial “flight or fight” impulse. It’s healthy to fear if it spurs us to action and saves us further damage. Wallowing in it? Avoiding it? Neither are useful. Ah, but the fear  can also put us into a fairly primitive place where our minds realize how much of our day-to-day life is just noise.  In those moments we receive a gift of sorts: We realize what is and is not truly important to us. That’s useful too.


Do your best to face it.

Feel it.

Appreciate the initial message your body and mind communicate to you… they are trying to keep you safe.

My best advice is to FEEL it but not FEED it.

Easier said than done, I know. Take care of yourself – ask for help if you need it – and refocus your energies on the things you CAN control: Studying, for instance (wink).


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Speakers: Bondage Nexus and linworth (December 3, 2015 @ 11:10 am)


Photo by  Jan Lehner*

BondageNexus and linworth will be visiting my HDFS 5440 classroom on The Ohio State University Main Campus (Schoenbaum Hall, Room 200) on December  3, 2015 from 11:10 am to 12:30 pm.

Both are considered “veterans” in the local scene (and beyond) with decades of experience between them. They will demonstrate some basics, discuss consent and negotiations, and answer students’ candid questions about their love of rope and how they explore this “kink” safely in their everyday lives.

If you are in another instructor’s 5440 or you’ve taken it with me previously? YES, you may come. It may be standing room only, however, so be prepared to grab a piece of carpet and plant yourself there! If you are bringing friends as guests, they must understand this AND be at least 18 years of age and aware of the topic. Guests should not ask questions of the speakers until all enrolled students have an opportunity to do so.

Bondage Nexus

BondageNexus has enjoyed incorporating rope bondage into his sex life since puberty. In the last ten years he has done bondage in the public kink scene mostly as an outreach to folks who are new to kink in hopes that they can be more comfortable in their love of bondage. If you’ve been to Trauma here in Columbus, you may have already caught one of his performances.


linworth has been actively exploring the kink world since 2007, and while having all sorts of “deviant” proclivities, has mainly settled into her two favorites of power exchange and rope bondage. While generally the shy, submissive type, she has a passion for education and discussion surrounding consent culture, rope bottoming, and the safe practice of all things kinky.


In addition to normal class readings, students were asked to read an excerpt from Steve Lenius’ Life, Leather, and the Pursuit of Happiness (Chapter 39, Bondage: the difference between black and gray)


Pink’s “Try” has been chosen for this class meeting’s music:


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Cat Stevens… with apologies to Harry Chapin

Cat-Stevens-VedoVintageI always tell students to question everything and everyONE… and that includes me. I hate to be wrong (does anyone enjoy being wrong?) but sometimes I am.  I know… le’ gasp!

So… this happened…

I played the Ugly Kid Joe version of Cat’s in the Cradle in my Tue/Thu 2367 class yesterday and then spoke about the Cat Stevens version (um… does not exist, apparently). When I misspoke,  a student (H.M.) called me out on it in class (politely, mind you) and told me that it was Harry Chapin’s song. He was kind enough to follow up with an email per my request, so I wouldn’t forget to do some searching. I appreciated his information.

There are many reasons why this mistake was made by me, though that matters little. I have an old cassette tape recording that was attributed to Cat Stevens (apparently incorrectly) and when I searched online, I found ample places where his face overlaid that music in videos. Now I know that it is a common mistake.  A mistake… though… and I wanted to correct it HERE rather than just in that one HDFS 2367 course where H.M. sits.  I may have shared this info before in error and want to be sure to get that out there.  Sure, it’s a little mistake, but it was bad information and I don’t appreciate receiving bad info and don’t like disseminating it either.

Cat Stevens IS the artist that sang “Father and Son” so that part was true, and he DID change his name to Yusuf Islam… ding… another truth. But the “cat’s in the cradle” bit… clearly wroooooong.

So there you have it.

Thanks H.M.

And now, for a musical interlude…

Harry Chapin’s Cat’s in the Cradle

Ugly Kid Joe’s Cat’s in the Cradle

Original Version of  Father and Son by Cat Stevens

Live Version (More Current) of Father and Son by Cat Stevens

Cat Stevens image found:

Harry Chapin image found:


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What I’d be Without You

This is one of those warm and fuzzy moments from yours truly. It has nothing to do with our classes – except perhaps – that it reminds us that we need one another.

Enjoy this fantastic fanciful collaboration of old and new artists (covering the Beach Boy’s 1966 classic – released the year before your instructor was born)

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Speaker: C.J. aka technicolor (September 25, 2014 @ 11:10 am)

technicolorAs a community educator, C.J. spreads a sex-positive message on-the-clock and off. She will be on the Ohio State University’s Main Campus this semester to discuss sex toys and their care. After sharing her experiences working at an adult toy store, she’ll answer questions about the types of merchandise offered at stores like GCJ: ( The Garden , The Chamber, and The Joint).

C.J. will be speaking in my HDFS 5440 classroom on The Ohio State University Main Campus (Campbell Hall, Classroom #143) from 11:10 am to 12:30 pm on September 25th. If you are in another instructor’s 5440 or you’ve taken it with me previously? YES, you may come. Students are welcome to bring guests (provided the individuals are over 18 years of age, respectful, and open minded). Please note: This is a full session which means that extra guests will be sitting on the floor or standing. Plan accordingly.

C.J. is willing to stay after class to talk further with students. She wishes to remind students that they are eligible for a 10% student discount at her stores by showing their Student I.D. Cards.


C.J.’s Video Choice: Sex by Lovage

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Summertime may be in our rearview mirror, but today felt far too summery to be inside.  My HDFS 2367 class trekked outside to the bank above Mirror Lake . While we read (and talked) about Arlie Hochschild‘s book – The Second Shift – we enjoyed some vitamin D courtesy of Mother Nature.

AU14-HDFS2367 (Tue/Thu) Class

AU14-HDFS2367 (Tue/Thu) Class [Panoramic photo by Anita]

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