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Speaker Day: Bondage Nexus (October 4, 2018 @ 11:10 am)

BondageNexus (along with his submissive*) visited my HDFS 5440 classroom on The Ohio State University Main Campus (Psychology Building, Room 014) on October 5, 2018 from 11:10 am to 12:30 pm.

BondageNexus is a veteran in the local kink* community and rope scene* (and beyond) with decades of experience as a Rigger*. He demonstrated some basic ties, a single suspension*, and answered student questions about consent, negotiations, the love of rope, and how he (and his partners) explore their kink* with an eye to safety in their everyday lives. His candid responses are always welcome and this semester’s class had plenty of questions! It was a pleasure to have him in the classroom once more.

The rope bunny* (who is also submissive* to Bondage Nexus*) remains nameless in print in order to protect her privacy. In some semesters, the demo bottom* is a seasoned performer and their name is divulged because they are on a performance or teaching circuit. Other presenters wish to be anonymous or to use an alias.

These speaker days are open to my students only (unless guests are first cleared by me). These presentations are not designed to shock-and-awe, but rather to provide students with an opportunity to meet – and have conversations with – people who actually engage in these lifestyle activities.

Class note:
No nudity or sex acts take place in my classroom.
I am careful in setting parameters for my presenters so that no university regulations or local/state/federal ordinances or laws are violated.
Students in my class are never permitted to take part in the demonstration.
There are NO non-consensual activities permitted in my class.
Students are permitted to opt-out of these experiences if they believe they will be triggering to them and are given written assignments in place of the class experience if they choose to opt-out.


Bondage Nexus

BondageNexus has enjoyed incorporating rope bondage into his sex life since puberty. In the last ten years he has done bondage in the public kink scene mostly as an outreach to folks who are new to kink in hopes that they can be more comfortable in their love of bondage. If you’ve been to Trauma here in Columbus, you may have already caught one of his performances. He likes pie and he loves education. His desire to teach others about rope and rope safety is manifested in the group: C.O.R.G (Central Ohio Rope Group).


Anonymous Rope Bunny ūüėČ

Our other presenter is a college student, active in the local scene, and interested in educating other young people about safety, consent, and diversity of sexual expression.


51MKk3tu-ML._SX331_BO1,204,203,200_Readings:

In addition to normal class readings, students read two pieces in preparation for the Bondage presentation.

An excerpt from Steve Lenius’ Life, Leather, and the Pursuit of Happiness¬†(Chapter 39, Bondage: the difference between black and gray)

An academic article by Sarah Stevens (Rope Sluts, and Bottoms, and Subs, Oh My:
50 Shades of Grey and the Shifting Discourse on Female Submission in Feminist Kink Porn).  Abstract for that article:

To date, feminists have conflated (and continue to conflate)
historical understandings of bondage, discipline, dominance and
submission, and sadomasochism (BDSM) as pathological and representations
of BDSM in literature and popular media with the
lived experiences of feminist BDSM practitioners. Feminist BDSM
practitioner Madison Young’s pornographic film 50 Shades of
Dylan Ryan (2012) takes the recent resurgence of the ongoing
debate on women, submission, and popular literature as a starting
point for reconsideration and possibility. By adapting the
discourse surrounding 50 Shades of Grey, Young’s pornographic
film points to the ways in which feminism also contributes to that
which makes pleasure possible. Young’s film reimagines the dualities
that have traditionally dominated feminist cultural critique
through concepts the author calls ‚Äúmediated authenticity‚ÄĚ and ‚Äúformal
simultaneity.‚ÄĚ Beginning with a brief, rigorous examination of
the 50 Shades of Grey phenomenon, this article analyzes Madison
Young’s 50 Shades of Dylan Ryan and seeks to provide a critical
intervention in feminist studies of pornography and popular
culture.


Music for this Class Meeting

I like to play music before classes begin. Today’s musical selection is one of my favorites for any Bondage Nexus presentation (as he is also into acro-yoga and other assorted psychically-demanding activities).

Try by Pink


*Terminology in this Post

While there are numerous definitions for terminology in the kink community, here are some simple definitions for terms used in this post.

BDSM = Used as a catch-all phrase to include a wide range of activities, forms of interpersonal relationships, and distinct subcultures.The term dates back to at least 1991; however, the exact origin of the term BDSM is unclear. While the term is newer, its associated practices have been clearly dated back to Mesopotamia at the earliest records, sometime between 4000 and 3000 BC and is consistently present throughout the rest of human history. It is often interpreted as a compound initialism from B&D (bondage and discipline), D&S (dominance and submission), and S&M (sadism and masochism).

Bottom= Someone who negotiates and consents to a specific activity or activities involving BDSM to be performed upon them by a Top.

Demo Bottom aka demo dolly =  Person who bottoms for the purpose of a demonstration. This person is generally selected for their extensive experience and comfort with the activity being demonstrated as well as their comfort with the person performing the duty to ensure that nothing unexpected occurs to ruin the demonstration for those who are there to learn.

Kink =  The use of unconventional sexual practices, fantasies, or concepts. It is a colloquial term for wide-ranging non-normative sexual behavior. This term is often used by those who practice sexual fetishism and has largely replaced more pejorative terms.

Rigger =¬†Person who applies functional or artistic rope bondage to another person’s (or sometimes their own) body for photographic, performance, artistic, educational, spiritual, or sexual purposes.

Rope Bunny = Person who enjoys being bound with rope for sexual or nonsexual pleasure.

Scene or The Scene or A Scene = “The Scene” is a broad term often used to describe The Community (as in, the kink community). “A scene” is a BDSM activity or encounter involving one or more people; it may or may not involve sexual activity.¬† A scene can take place in private or in a club where it can be viewed by an audience.¬† In some cases a scene may also be referred to as play. A scene may also be referred to as a¬†session¬†to set a more professional context and tone, or a¬†pro session¬†to indicate a specific professional transaction.

Submissive aka sub aka s-type = Person who gives up some degree of authority and/or control to a Dominant for the duration of a BDSM scene or in everyday life. Submissive may also refer to the personality traits of a particular individual.

Suspension = Suspension bondage refers to a bound person being hung (via ropes/bindings around the body) from one or more overhead suspension points. This can be done as a form of BDSM play or for artistic purposes. Suspension bondage is considered to carry a higher risk than most other forms of bondage.

 

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Speaker: Tara McKenzie Allison on February 20, 2018 @ 11:10 am

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Photo by Ralph Orr @  Summit on 16th United Methodist Church during The Transgender Military Recognition Night, Columbus, OH, 8/12/2017

Tara McKenzie Allison will visit my HDFS 5440 classroom on The Ohio State University Main Campus (Townshend Hall, Room 247 ) today from 11:10 am  to 12:30 pm.

Tara is a local attorney who graciously offers her time to my students. Active in the local LGBT community, Tara is a tireless activist supporting equal rights for¬†all people. Her presentation is followed by an informative Question&Answer period.¬†Previous students have described her visit as life changing… and that echoes my sentiments. ¬†She is amazing.

More about Tara:  In 1987, Tara received her undergraduate degree in Marine Engineering, from the United States Naval Academy in Annapolis. Following graduation, she served as a Commissioned Officer in the US Navy. After being honorably discharged, Tara worked as a nuclear engineer for over a decade. She is a licensed Professional Engineer. In 1999, she partially completed a MBA degree, at the College of William and Mary, before relocating to Columbus. In 2005, Tara graduated from Capital University Law School, cum laude, passed the Ohio Bar Exam, and was admitted to the Ohio Bar. Following graduation from law school, she has served as General Counsel / Contracts Manager for a mid-sized, construction-industry company, in Lexington, KY. In 2008, she relocated back to Columbus, in order to start her own law practice. She is a member of the Columbus Bar Association and is admitted to practice before the U.S. District Court for the Southern District of Ohio. She practices primarily in the areas of domestic/family law, Lesbian, Gay, Bi, and Transgender law, contract law, construction law, and civil litigation. Tara is an active public speaker on LGBT-related issues; she has spoken numerous times at The Ohio State University, The Ohio State University Law School, Capital University Law School, Dennison University, Ohio Northern University, Transylvania University, Columbus Alternative High School, the King Avenue United Methodist Church in Columbus, Ohio, and the LGBT Subcommittee of the Columbus Bar Association. She has been a presenter at the TransOhio Annual Transgender and Ally Symposium (2008, 2009, 2010, and 2011). She has also spoken on LGBT issues at the 2010 Ohio Diversity and Leadership Conference, the 2011 Equality Ohio CAUSE Conference at Columbus State Community College, before the Columbus Community Relations Commission, and the Columbus Police Academy.

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Nick Wolack: Evolved Body Art

Nick Wolack, the owner of Evolved Body Art, poses in the old shop location above Too’s on North High Street. Credit: Mason Swires | Assistant Photo Editor

I am often fortunate enough to have the time available for a visit from Nick and staff members from his businesses. Unfortunately, this semester did not provide us a chance to schedule something. I wanted to toot his horn, though, as he was featured in The Lantern.

Evolved Body Art continues to be the only tattoo business that I “vouch for” because of their adherence to quality standards and their partnerships in a variety of ethical events and organizations. I am proud to call Nick a friend and consider him a colleague in the world of education.

Lantern Q&A with Nick Wolack

Care to learn more about some of the businesses and events at which Nick hangs his creative hat? See links below!

 

 

http://www.evolvedbodyart.com

http://www.traumacolumbus.com

http://www.rendezvoushair.com

http://www.draumacolumbus.com

 

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Book Drive Challenge!

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Competition is fun, eh?

We (Buckeyes) have a long-standing feud with the folks up north… y’know.. Mmmm(cough)ichigan! Ah, but it isn’t all football – we also use that competitive urge when we have blood drive challenges with the Red Cross to see which university can bleed the most – and save lives while they do it.

Competition CAN be fun and it CAN be productive.

So… drumroll please… This semester, my activity of choice is a book drive. In our text (The Second Shift by Hochschild and Machung) we learn that not all families are created equal. In class, we view a video (Nigel Marsh’s tedtalk about balancing family and work), ¬†in which the speaker relates how he read to his son from Roald Dahl’s James and the Giant Peach. ¬†We discuss how some families have no books on hand.

This semester (AU16), students in my two 2367 classes will have an opportunity to help children in their community WHILE scratching that itch to compete.

I’ve worked with a staff member from a local middle school to gather a list of these students’ favorite books, authors, and topics. My students will collect books and other supplies that these students (in “inclusive” programs) can use in their classroom. Those students will be encouraged to fall in love with some of those books and be permitted to take them home – to keep – as their own.

I’ll pop in from time-to-time to post updates as we will not be taking one load of donations (as we did with our clothing drive in Sp16), but delivering books and items as we collect them… in order to get them into the hands of those who need them as quickly as possible!

Let the games begin…

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Community Involvement – Clothing Drive 2016

When possible, I encourage my students to step out of their LITERAL comfort zone – to venture into the community around OSU – to see life through someone else’s lens.

I do this through many of my extra credit opportunities. I also do this – from time to time – with agencies. A few years ago, my 2367 students collected food for the Mid Ohio Foodbank and my “Helping Skills” class was visited by a representative of that foodbank to explain what they do and how we can help.¬†Often, my 5440 students meet activists in the human sexuality realm and learn – firsthand – the challenges they face.

In Spring of 2016, I had two classes of 2367 students and they combined efforts to gather clothing (especially coats and OSU gear) for some students attending Beechcroft High School.

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That effort far surpassed expectations and we created a board in Campbell Hall to commemorate the experience.

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The whole effort came about organically. I spoke about students – in our own community – who walk to school without coats in the dead of winter. I talked about young people who have no college plans because that seed has not been planted.

My students were ready to help. Wow. What an amazing response it was. Over the course of two weeks, students brought in coats and hoodies along with t-shirts and fun items as well. They were encouraged to donate OSU items to foster college aspirations. The clothing drive was not attached to points or homework. They didn’t get extra credit for donating, but we collected more than 100 items in quick order.

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With the assistance of Skye Zuza (at Beechcroft High School), several high school students in the special education program made posters about the drive to share with my students. Ms. Zuza was also instrumental in receiving and distributing the new and gently-used OSU gear to Beechcroft students.

  • A special thanks to the students in both of my 2367 classes in the Sp16 Semester ‚Äď for their generosity and interest in others.
  • A special shout-out goes to Deston Howard (of my Monday/Wednesday class) who created the informative maps seen in the bulletin board image above. He took on that mapping project as an individual extra credit project and knocked it out of the park by providing all of us with a visual comparison of the demographics of the communities being served by a few of the wealthiest and poorest schools in our area.
  • I am grateful to the staff at Beechcroft ‚Äď They were essential in getting items to the students who had need and took the opportunity to talk to students about college aspirations.

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Photo taken by – and used with permission of – Raquel Bahmer (student)

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Speaker: Tara McKenzie Allison on September 6, 2016 @ 11:10 am

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Attorney Tara McKenzie Allison

Tara McKenzie Allison will be visiting my HDFS 5440 classroom on The Ohio State University Main Campus (Jennings Hall, Room 060) on Tuesday, September 6 from 11:10 am  to 12:30 pm.

Tara is a local attorney who graciously offers her time to my students. Active in the local LGBT community, Tara is a tireless activist supporting equal rights for¬†all people. Her presentation is followed by an informative Question&Answer period.¬†Previous students have described her visit as life changing… and that echoes my sentiments. ¬†She is amazing.

If you are in another instructor’s 5440 or you’ve taken it with me previously… YES, you may come. But it is sometimes standing-room only, so be prepared. If you wish to bring a friend? The same thing applies. Make certain they are adults and tell them that chairs aren’t part of the bargain. Note: guests should not ask questions of speakers unless students have exhausted all of their inquiries.

This IS an extra credit opportunity for students in my 2367 class.

More about Tara:  In 1987, Tara received her undergraduate degree in Marine Engineering, from the United States Naval Academy in Annapolis. Following graduation, she served as a Commissioned Officer in the US Navy. After being honorably discharged, Tara worked as a nuclear engineer for over a decade. She is a licensed Professional Engineer. In 1999, she partially completed a MBA degree, at the College of William and Mary, before relocating to Columbus. In 2005, Tara graduated from Capital University Law School, cum laude, passed the Ohio Bar Exam, and was admitted to the Ohio Bar. Following graduation from law school, she has served as General Counsel / Contracts Manager for a mid-sized, construction-industry company, in Lexington, KY. In 2008, she relocated back to Columbus, in order to start her own law practice. She is a member of the Columbus Bar Association and is admitted to practice before the U.S. District Court for the Southern District of Ohio. She practices primarily in the areas of domestic/family law, Lesbian, Gay, Bi, and Transgender law, contract law, construction law, and civil litigation. Tara is an active public speaker on LGBT-related issues; she has spoken numerous times at The Ohio State University, The Ohio State University Law School, Capital University Law School, Dennison University, Ohio Northern University, Transylvania University, Columbus Alternative High School, the King Avenue United Methodist Church in Columbus, Ohio, and the LGBT Subcommittee of the Columbus Bar Association. She has been a presenter at the TransOhio Annual Transgender and Ally Symposium (2008, 2009, 2010, and 2011). She has also spoken on LGBT issues at the 2010 Ohio Diversity and Leadership Conference, the 2011 Equality Ohio CAUSE Conference at Columbus State Community College, before the Columbus Community Relations Commission, and the Columbus Police Academy.

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We all can’t stay here forever

no one is perfect pencils have erasersI’m on campus for a meeting today.

Meetings aren’t generally my favorite thing but this one? Relatively painless ūüôā

It’s a nice change from grading -to be simply talking with a colleague ¬†– and so here I am. Most of the work from Spring 2016 is behind us, and a new Carmen is on its way. Summer (and summer classes) are on the horizon. Change is hard but it is good.

Did you catch that?

Change. Is. Good.

Speaking of change… OSU is very very quiet today. This is what happens when students are either GONE¬†for good, or have headed off for summer plans…¬†or are curled up in a ball nursing their wounds after grade-posting. Here’s hoping it’s one of the first two for all of my students. What a great semester – and what fantastic students. Yes… fantastic for the most part. I said it.

We¬†hear a lot about ¬†millennials and it’s often negative. I’ve got news for the world: My students aren’t better OR worse than the generation that came before them. Some of them have their head on straight and are focused on their work. Some of them could not care less about school work. Some are just trying to figure out who they are in the world. That’s okay. It’s what young adults are doing today. It’s the same thing their parents and grandparents did before them.

I want to thank my students for an awesome semester. Some of you gave me a headache but nearly all of you made me smile or laugh at least once. If you screwed up this semester? Time for a change. Don’t let that define you. If you screw up in the future? Same advice. We are all capable of monumental failures¬†and epic achievements. I’ve made my fair share of both. I suspect I’ll do the same in the future ūüėČ

I always ask students to keep in touch if they’ve graduated. Let me know where you land… where life takes you. If you start a business or a family (or both), I’d love to hear about it. If you are at OSU still (or for a visit), let’s meet up for coffee.

anita

 

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I hope you get the chance…

imagesSo that happened. Yesterday. There was more violence and much closer than many of us would care to feel it. Scary? Yes. Receiving those “shelter in place” messages can send some of us to a dark place.

Fear.

Fear isn’t terribly useful past its initial “flight or fight” impulse. It’s healthy to fear if it spurs us to action and saves us further damage. Wallowing in it? Avoiding it? Neither are useful. Ah, but the fear ¬†can also put us into a fairly primitive place where our minds realize how¬†much of our day-to-day life is just noise.¬† In those moments we receive a gift of sorts: We realize what¬†is and¬†is not truly important to us. That’s useful too.

Fear.

Do your best to face it.

Feel it.

Appreciate the initial message your body and mind communicate to you… they are trying to keep you safe.

My best advice is to FEEL it but not FEED it.

Easier said than done, I know. Take care of yourself Рask for help if you need it Рand refocus your energies on the things you CAN control: Studying, for instance (wink).

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GOT STRESS? NEED OFFICE HOURS?

The semester is winding down, and for many of you that means:

Stress

Anxiety

All the Feels

If you need to see me, I’m holding OPEN OFFICE HOURS today and Thursday.

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TUESDAY, APRIL 26, 2016  7:30 am Р1:30 pm
(yup, I’m already here!)

and

THURSDAY, APRIL 28, 2016 7:30 am Р1:30 pm

If you need to see me at another time, you will need to schedule private office hours. These are possible, but limited.

Whether you visit during drop-in hours or by-appointment, please come prepared with specific questions or concerns. Help me help you.

Don’t want to see me but anxious about grades? Please be patient as I chip away at this mountain of papers! You will be notified when all grades are in Carmen and ready for the Registrar’s office. If you have anything lower than an “A” I will give you an opportunity to verify your grades before the push to the main system.

alt_7.13.12.jpgNow – On a very serious note: If your stress levels have exceeded your coping strategies, please seek some help. There are lots of resources in the community. There are folks on campus that can talk with you as well. They’ll help you develop strategies to cope with finals as well as other issues. ¬†The Younkin Success Center offers¬†excellent Wellness Services that cover everything from tutoring/studying assistance to counseling. Heck, if ¬†you are a graduating Senior, you can even go get help with your resume or career search!

If you need help… make sure to ask!

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Vagina Monologues

If ¬†you’ve ever wanted to see them (or to see them again… since they are so different each time), check out the local Vagina Monologues this Friday or Sunday! You’ll probably recognize some faces (Tara for one!). Sadly, not mine. Nope… I can’t make it ūüė¶

There is a cost (ten dollars at the door) or you can pre-purchase tickets online to be sure you get a spot. As I type this, there are still some TABLES available too in case you want to take a group and get comfortable!

https://www.facebook.com/events/1583991648557392/

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